Alchemise 🩷🥂

If you’re reading this in ‘realtime’ you most likely know I’ve been ‘living alchemise’ these last few months…..but in case you’re not in the know, the short version of events is I started a kitchen renovation two and a half months ago and let me just say the builder hasn’t exactly been a joy…(I’m talking not nice person or energy and also not a great standard of work or work ethic!)

On top of this I have ongoing challenges with my ex-husband. Short version of this is the behaviour that caused me to leave our marriage is continuing, except now he takes things out on the children and there’s very little I can do about this in practical terms. So, I keep picking up the pieces, loving them with all my heart and doing my best to shield them as much as I can from his unhealthy ways and ideas. But in all honesty it’s not easy and it causes me a lot of hurt.

I could write heaps on this but it would be a thesis….

Anyway, the idea for my program Alchemise was born when my Relax Me Happy Insta was disabled for no reason and because of how Meta runs things there was zilch I could do. So, many years of work were just down the pan, like that! (If you do a job anything like mine you’ll get what a blow the loss of a social media platform like this is.) It wasn’t ideal for my business, my lovely clients and followers and of course me!

But, when it happened I was determined to make the best of it, to make good of it, to alchemise it. And so many people told me they couldn’t believe how well I dealt with it. This got me thinking. To me it was such a relatively small thing compared with the crap I’ve been through, that while I appreciated my attitude was an unusually positive one, it also felt pretty simple compared with having to show up when you’re being abused behind closed doors, when ‘loved ones’ treat you poorly but no one else can see it and so on.

So, I decided to create a program called Alchemise and of course the theme and meditation this month are of the same name! It’s a thing I’m REALLY passionate about. It’s been said that:

✨ ‘Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.’

And this is to true! In other words, s**t happens in life! BUT how you deal with it is EVERYTHING. And this is what Alchemise (whether it’s the meditation, the masterclass or my program), is all about.

When I wrote the meditation I sat and imagined what I’d want my most beloved daughter to know, feel and do if she was going through the pain I’ve been through recently. (I have to really practise what I preach when it comes to sending my kids into an environment that I know is causing them pain and damaging their wellbeing.)

I poured so much love into the writing and recording of the meditation- I mean I always do but this month was just extra!

I did this for my own daughter but also for YOU my love! I did this so that I could turn my own pain into purpose but also to inspire you to do the same.

As I’ve been saying when I talk about the program Alchemise- if you’ve been through the pain I want you to take your gain. Because what I know for sure is unwanted creates wanted, that’s the point of the suck! Just as you need to pull an arrow backwards to propel it forwards, the sucky stuff in life funds and fuels what you WANT.

And I want you to get your gains, what you’ve ‘earned’.

If you can start by knowing there IS purpose in all your pain and at the same time you don’t NEED heaps of pain for the growth this will serve you so well.

And I want to share one simple, powerful tip with you to help you GET YOUR GAINS. When you’re going through or have been through ‘the things’, know that the very opposite of what you’ve been through is now due to you, and your work is to begin to focus here and not on the unwanted. So, you’re skint means money is waiting on you! If you’ve been unwell so much great health has been banked, your relationships SUCK, ‘the one’ is on the way and so on.

After my time with the builder I know I’ve created experiences with people who will be reliable, caring, positive, conscientious and on and on….so of course MY work is to focus here and let the past go!

To your gains and with so much love,

Zofie 🩷