There's a Part of Me!

Today there's a part of me that wants to flee the country. There's a part of me that's angry at those who l perceive as being unkind, and a part of me feels sad. There's also a part of me that feels unsettled and as though my future is in the hands of others. I also felt, in part, that fear had won over love, for a moment.

If you, like me, were sad when you saw the news this morning you might like to hear my take on how to get over it, how to make the best of it, how to continue to be the best you in this world.

Firstly, l consider myself fortunate because l made the decision some time ago to care about how l feel. I also know, for sure, that when l'm at my best l can make a big difference to those around me, whereas when l'm not, l can’t. And l really care about helping others to feel good too. It's my life’s passion.

So when l heard the news that to me was sad, l made the decision to focus upon this news in the same way that l focus upon my life in general. In short, l want to ‘be the change’ as Ghandi said. So, my urge to leave (l recognise, and own as such) is the same urge that l imagine many of the ‘leave’ voters felt which caused them to vote as they did. And my anger is also exactly the same as the anger felt by many disillusioned voters looking for something ‘better’. Same goes for me feeling unsettled…..So, what to do?! For me there's no choice other than to lean away from said feelings in myself and instead lean into love and compassion.

I feel as though l want to use this experience to better myself, to allow more love and light and compassion into my being. And l'll do this through my focus, l'ill focus upon all of the messages of kindness l've seen, l'll say soothing things to myself, l'll distract myself. I'll selfishly (and also for the benefit of others) do whatever l can to lean into feeling better.

I won't hate those with whom l disagree. I won't not sink into the quagmire of negativity or fear. I won't not scaremonger. I will spread as much love, and kindness, and softness, and soothing as l can. I'll use this experience as a powerful impetus to focus my positive energy in an even clearer manner; l'll look for the positive aspects and remain as open as l can. I will, more pointedly be mindful of the powerful words of Don Miguel Ruiz as l intend to be impeccable with my word.

This situation has given me clarity (as any unwanted experience always does). And in this instance the clarity l have is that l value acceptance, and kindness, and love and compassion and stability too. It has underlined for me the fact that l love human beings, all human beings and strive to see the good in all. It has underlined my powerful desire for unity and connection as well as freedom.

I'm also mindful of the fact that the Chinese word for crisis is composed of two characters, one of which means danger and the other of which means opportunity. Plus, one thing l know for sure is that everything is a blessing, sometimes the blessing is simply in a better disguise.

Lots of helpful things are running through my mind, from soothing statements such as ‘all is well’ to the lyrics of Rick Astley’s latest track ‘Angels on my side’!! And one of my favourite poems by Rudyard Kipling ‘If’.

I don’t know about you but l'm intending to keep my head….and also my heart. I want my head clear and smart, and focused on the positive aspects and my heart open and loving.

Wishing you well,

Zofie x